Ok, so while certain things have pivoted in my life, my love for terrible reality tv endures. Real Housewives of New York City is my favourite until Sweet Home Oklahoma returns.
I look for little nuggets of wisdom whenever I am watching and find that – more often than not – it’s Carole Radziwell who leads the charge. She is such a smart cookie. If you know someone who is grieving, What Remains: A Memoir of Fate, Friendship, and Love, her memoir about losing her husband, is a must read. It’s beautifully written and wise.
In the latest RHONY instalment, Carole is giving some advice to la Tinsley who is returning to New York after an episode in Palm Beach that left her with a broken heart and a mug shot. Tinsley wants to be a whole new Tinsley this time around and is contemplating the switch from the UES to Downtown. Carole thinks she should also change her look, to reinforce the fact that she is no longer the It Girl who once dominated Manhattan’s social scene. In explaining her reasoning, Carole offers this gem:
Reinvention is not Repetition.
It’s impossible to have a different sort of life if you aren’t willing to make some big changes.
Tinsley does not buy it. She seems more wedded to her long hair and lashes than she is to major change.
I sooo get her. It’s hard to let go of something that has sort of worked in the past. Change is scary.
But of course, we are not meant to live this way, clinging to remnants of the past.
We are meant to be renewed.
I’ve always loved The Message’s translation of Luke 5:36, “No one cuts up a fine silk scarf to patch old work clothes; you want fabrics that match.”
Right? It’s kind of RHONY-ish isn’t it: “Nobody uses Hermès Carrés 90 to patch their gardener’s jeans.”
It’s also good advice.
If we want to change, we have to really change. Cut the hair, ditch the lashes, move to that loft downtown.
So a new thing can be done.